How To Be Intimate With The Holy Spirit

How To Be Intimate With The Holy Spirit

By Seun Jaiye

Intimacy is a word that denotes a relationship that is built on Love, Trust, Openness, Sacrifice and other important parameters. To be Intimate with someone or something means that both parties have successfully intermingled to the point where they now have many shared values.

In other words, You’ll be Intimate with someone to the extent that you have similar tastes, interests and values.

While any two persons can be in a relationship, it is not every relationship that graduates into Intimacy. The same applies to the Holy Spirit. You can have a relationship with him because of salvation, but not intimacy. The initial salvation offered to all men is a product of Grace but intimacy comes as a result of Choice.

Intimacy is one of the responses of the Holy Spirit to certain choices and decisions you begin to make as a believer. Nobody is intimate with God today simply because He sovereignly willed it. God’s response of Intimacy is borne on the altar of choices and decisions that men make.

What is this Choice that I’m referring to?

The closer you get to God, the more you’ll realize he never made the path to knowing him difficult. Instead, he made it easy because he really desires that all of his children draw close to him, even more than we desire it.

This initial understanding really helped pave my path into knowing him more. He made me realize through his word that HIS DESIRE TO BE CLOSE TO ME IS WAY GREATER THAN MY DESIRE TO KNOW HIM AND BE CLOSE TO HIM and it’s the same for everyone of us.

It is important you know this because it’ll make it much easier for you to pay whatever price he requires for you to be close to him.

What is this choice?

John 14:21-23

He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world?

Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

He that loveth me not, keepeth not my sayings: and the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father’s which sent me.

As funny as it may sound, the above verses is really the key to intimacy with God.

Salvation comes as a result of God’s love for you, Intimacy comes as a result of his response to your love for him.

In verse 21, we see the love for his commandments (Written word) and his sayings, Verse 24 (Spoken word given to you directly) listed there as his approved pathway into intimacy. But pay close attention to the two categories..

You can obey the written word (ten commandments specifically) and still not be intimate with God. Apostle Paul was such a man that made it clear that even when it came to even the righteousness in the law, he was blameless which means he really kept the commandments of God, yet it never equated to Intimacy with God.

Philippians 3:6
Concerning zeal, persecuting the church; touching the righteousness which is in the law, blameless.

It is defaulting in the spoken word part that really makes the Holyspirit look far from us. The spoke word part is what we literally  call the GOVERNMENT OF GOD OVER THE LIFE OF A MAN.

So you don’t lie, kill, steal or do other things religion calls sinful yet you don’t obey the prompting of the Spirit within you to give or to be quiet when you wanted to answer someone who angered you and he asked you to be quiet..

If you won’t follow this class of instructions sent directly to you, not only will you find it difficult to have a close walk with God but you’ll also find that your prayer life will be weak; which is an indispensable requirement for depths of Intimacy.


A believer who still has an ego to keep, or anything of self or the flesh to protect will find it difficult to be intimate with the Holy Spirit . Why? because he only draws closer to you the more you meet his PERSONALIZED DEMANDS ON YOUR LIFE.

Even if God moves sovereignly over your life and brings you into an experience of His love, The moment you turn and pay attention to him he’ll go and hide.

He always does this because Intimacy is ordained to begin with a man taking the step towards God by his choices. God has already shown his love and desire for us through the Cross; hence the demand falls on men to respond.

Look at what he said about David in

Psalm 91:14
Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

A man CHOSE to set his love on God and it formed the basis of God’s response to him. Read through Psalm 119 to see what David understands by Loving God.

This response is what Jesus called “Manifesting myself unto him”.
When he manifests himself to a man, it’s not just MANIFEST PRESENCE as we know it but a revelation of himself (His love, word, ways..etc) to that man.

When this response comes from him, I assure you that you’ll love him more because you can’t truly know the God of the Bible and not take loving him as an eternal goal.

I can begin to give you tips I’ve picked up along my journey just like Benny hinn shared some of his; like Greeting him every morning. However, let me be truthful to you; even if you Sing a million songs to him  or prostrate on the floor every morning to greet him, for as long as you have not allowed your daily choices to reflect, honour and glorify him, No show for you.

When you choose to begin obeying him no matter how stupid it makes you look, What you’re doing is that you’re telling him that you prefer his tastes and values above yours and that which the world teaches.

It’s just a normal relationship principle that the more you and a person discover similarities between yourselves, the greater the tendency for bonding. Likewise, the more the similarities, the greater the bonding.

Kathryn kulman said something that has been a guide for me since I saw it. She said..

“The Holyspirit is the greatest promoter on the earth and he only came to promote one person, Jesus.”

Benny Hinn also said..

“The Holyspirit only came to the earth to Glorify Jesus.”

So It’s clear that the major interest of this person that I want to be so close to is that man called JESUS.

It therefore means that if I make this same Jesus the center and focus of my life then this other person (the Holy Spirit) I’m trying to get close to will likely respond to me. And guess what, He’s not another human female or male so he’ll certainly respond to me cause he’s not a man.

By figuring this out you’ll realize It’s that simple. Nobody will ever love the Lord Jesus like the Holy Spirit and the Father does and nobody can ever love the Holy Spirit like Jesus and the Father does.

The love bond in the Trinity is the strongest ever. So if you can simply love that one that the other two terribly care about which is JESUS, the other two will come and abide with you like the anchor verses for tonight said because you’ll also become a partaker of their love.

When you successfully do this, the love bond between you, the Holy Spirit, Jesus and the Father becomes so much contagious.

Make pleasing Jesus the focus of your life, the Holy Spirit will come and knock on your house door by himself.

This is the simple secret to it.

So here’s what I did, It became my daily cry in the place of prayer and always has been.



God bless you.

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